May 5, 2006
How to be an attractive guy for your girlfriend
Having a girlfriend can be a dangerous thing. We may become too dependent on our girl for happiness. So if one day we get dumped, we find we’ve all of a sudden lost our confidence. This results in being without sex for many months, until we finally get a girlfriend again, and… the cycle repeats.
So to break this cycle, we need to remain the attractive guy. It’s crucial to keep that proper mindset that says, “I am the one who needs to be chased.”
Do luxury car dealerships beg people to like them? Of course not. Instead they allow all the buyers to come to them. As a man, you should have a similar confident mindset if you want to maximize the attraction your girlfriend feels for you. First and foremost, avoid chasing your girlfriend like a puppy. A basic concept which will prevent her from ever treating you badly is what I call Punishment and Reward.
If a woman engages in behavior which you dislike, punish her by withdrawing your time and focusing on something (or someone) else. If she does something you like (such as having sex with you), reward her by giving her more of your time, talking about her feelings, etc.
The basic idea is to reward her good behavior, if You want more of it. Like I said, Punishment and Reward. This way you will keep being attractive for your girlfriend.
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John Alexander, the author of “How to Become an Alpha Male”
Filed by Sex Life Guide at 8:26 am under Dating Secrets
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this is rubish. is relationship all about sex?
Hmmm….this advice is superficial and would be hard to implement. The premises of the analogy are flawed. Luxury car dealers invest an awful lot of cash in advertising to persuade you that the cars they sell are in fact superior to other perfectly functional cars. They plead and beg with you to believe that the amenities they provide distinguish them from others.
Given this more accurate statement of the premises of the analogy, the resulting advice should be: if you want to be an attractive guy for your girlfriend, you will need to invest in maintaining your amenities. A basic , starter-list of attractive amenities includes: (1) rid yourself of ridiculous emotional baggage and defensiveness that would lead you to play games of reward/punish with your intimate partner–get honest with yourself about your feelings and stop repressing, denying and channeling them all into a puerile fixation on sexual penetration; (2) be sexually creative and flexible: experiment in different ways; (3) control & curb the amount of hair sprouting from your various orifices; (4) wear clean, fashionable but comfortable clothes, even when you are chilling around the house; (5) listen to your intimate partner and ask her what she fantasizes about every once in awhile; (6) surprise her; and (7) don’t rely on your partner to take care of all your needs, diversify and reach out to friends and family so you have an active support network.
Granted, I know this sounds much harder than the simplistic advice offered by the site’s author, but I guarantee you it will yield better results. of course, progress, not perfection is the goal.
of course, if you think bmws were created, marketed and sold by simply opening a dealership and rewarding and punishing potential customers, just follow John Alexander’s advice.
if you think it’s a little more complicated and are willing to be alive and do the accompanying heavy lifting, I guarantee you you’ll have a finer, more alive and supple relationship AND SEX!
I can safely say I’ve never dated a guy that’s taken your advice or any similar, at least not for more than about a week. Women are not objects, we are not here simply so you can get laid, and we certainly shouldn’t have to offer sex in order to be treated like respectable human beings. If you were worth a female’s time, you would be willing to speak to her about her feelings (and yours) regardless of whether you were getting into her pants or not. If you think men should all be solely concerned with getting some ass, maybe you should start banging them, since according to you, it’s not like they’d ever dream of refusing sex.
be a fucking man! none of this player attitude…or the lovely dovey shit. be yourself…if she doesn’t like it…or you don’t like it…then leave.